Join Esther Perel, Paul Browde, and Benjamin Fry for this multi-day intensive to deepen connection, playfulness and vitality in your relationships. Esther, as a globally-celebrated cross-cultural sex and relationship therapist, will engage you in live interactions with her essential primer of relational intelligence, invigorated by Paul’s extensive experience as a storyteller, wilderness guide, and queer, IFS-informed psychiatrist. The intensive is curated by Benjamin Fry, a British trauma-informed psychotherapist, author, and founder of Khiron Clinics.

During our time together, we will combine discussion, interactive exercises, and physical practices surrounded by the natural beauty of this blue zone. In an atmosphere free of judgment, we will present a nuanced and multicultural understanding of love, desire, and erotic intimacy.

You will learn to:
  • Inhabit a new definition of eroticism that extends far beyond mere sexual performance to include aliveness, playfulness and creativity.
  • Elicit spontaneity and step out of your familiar routines that keep you feeling dissatisfied, uninspired or fearful.
  • Deeply understand your erotic self – your longings, inhibitions and prohibitions, as well as your values and beliefs about intimacy and pleasure.
  • Practice the art of deep listening and connection, and understand how to transcend challenges when personal histories, or trauma  make that more difficult.
  • Have courageous conversations, by taking emotional risks and open up your communication channels. Develop the tools to make these conversations safe – even if they trigger you.
  • Explore the need for security and closeness with the quest for separateness and passion, reconciling hyper-connection with solitude and using your imagination and inner resources to soothe yourself.
  • Move beyond your comfort zone into an expansive and fully charged connection.

KEY QUESTIONS TO EXPLORE (among many others!)

  • Desire: Why does great sex so often fade for couples that love each other as much as ever? When we love how does it feel? and when we desire how is it different?

  • Intimacy & Eroticism: Why does good intimacy not guarantee good sex?
  • Infidelity: Why is the forbidden so erotic?

  • The Art of Difference: How do our differences as individuals become our strengths together?

We welcome clinicians and lay participants as well as couples and individuals of all orientations.